The Gate — J Calaway — Make Today Count — They Don’t Care!

‘You shouldn’t give circumstances the power to rouse anger, for they don’t care at all.’

Have you ever been stuck in traffic, fuming because you’re late? Or maybe someone snapped at you, and it ruined your whole day? I’ve been there—like the time I spilled coffee all over my shirt right before a big meeting and let it sour my mood for hours. But here’s the thing Marcus is pointing out: those circumstances don’t care if I’m mad. They’re just… there. So why do we hand them the reins to our emotions? Let’s dive in and see how we can take back that control—with some wisdom from scripture to guide us.”

Circumstances—like a rainy day or a canceled plan—are indifferent. They don’t have feelings, and they’re not out to get us. So when we get angry at them, we’re giving away our power to something that doesn’t even notice.

When someone cuts you off in traffic or snaps at you, your response has power. A harsh comeback might feel good in the moment, but it just stokes the fire. A gentle word, though? That can calm things down—starting with you. It’s about choosing control over chaos. (Proverbs 15:1)

Listen first, speak thoughtfully, and don’t rush to anger. Why? Because anger usually doesn’t lead us closer to God’s heart—it pulls us away. (James 1:19-20)

Anger happens—we’re human. But the key is not letting it take root. Don’t let it simmer overnight or turn into something that controls you. It’s a reminder to process it, release it, and not let it give the enemy a way in. (Ephesians 4:26, 27)

Apply It!

1. Recognize

2. Breath

3. Focus.

4. Respond

5. Release.

We don’t have to let circumstances call the shots on our emotions. They’re indifferent, but we’re not. We can choose responses that reflect our faith, our values, and our peace.

This week, I challenge you: notice what sparks your anger. Traffic? Kids? Work? Then try one of these tips—maybe jot down how it goes in a journal or tell a friend.

Let’s make today count by owning our reactions, not handing them over to things that don’t even care.